How Can Having an Arch Nemesis Help You Grow Personally? #32

Whether you call them frenemies, haters, or nemesis (nemesi??), it seems like everyone has someone in their lives that is their antithesis. On this episode of My Biz Bestie, Amber and Maelisa flesh out the arch-nemesis relationship. An arch-nemesis can actually be an important relationship that helps you define your life (much like a biz bestie!). Having an arch-nemesis may not seem like a good thing, but you may be surprised at the good they can provide to your life. Listen to this episode to learn how having an arch-nemesis could help you reexamine your values and grow personally.

What is an arch-nemesis?

There is a difference between a regular old enemy and an arch-nemesis. An arch-nemesis is when you have a close relationship with someone, but over time you realize that there is such a difference in the values between you that it causes a rift in the relationship. The important thing to remember is that there is a fundamental difference between two people’s values. The way you see the world is so different that you truly can’t understand how the other person thinks. Is there someone like this in your life? If so, then listen to this episode to hear why that might not be such a bad thing.

What are the benefits of having an arch-nemesis?

Believe it or not, there are benefits in having an arch-nemesis. This frenemy can give you the clarity to examine your own values. When someone completely calls into question your own strongly held viewpoints, this can give you pause. You may realize that you should reexamine these views and see if your values are sound. If you feel that you are correct to uphold your value system then you may find that you have to take a break in the relationship to stay true to yourself. Listen to Amber and Maelisa as they hash out the ins and outs of this interesting type of relationship

If you are interested in self-growth, then look no further than your arch-nemesis!

If you have a self-improvement mindset and you want to learn and grow as a person then having an arch-nemesis can help you see your own shortcomings and help you grow personally. Knowing someone well that sees the world in such a different way from you can help you to reexamine your own beliefs. You need to look at your own interactions with them and evaluate why you are having that reaction. You can learn how to avoid certain situations or react better to things. Listen to this episode to learn how to let your haters become your motivators.

How do you handle your arch-nemesis?

Sometimes you can’t just quit interacting with your arch-nemesis, so how do you handle having a relationship with them? It is important to set boundaries. These can include how often you interact with this person, how you interact with them, and what you confide in them. If this person is a family member you may only want to see them only at family events rather than one on one. If they drain you emotionally, then seeing them regularly could be a bad idea. Evaluate to what degree of an arch-nemesis this is before coming up with a game plan. You can even use your support system for advice on how to handle this challenging person in your life. Listen to this episode of My Biz Bestie to hear tips on how to handle the haters and grow personally.

In this episode...

  • [1:52] What is an arch-nemesis?
  • [5:33] What are the benefits in having an arch nemesis?
  • [9:55] If you have a growth mindset your haters can help you
  • [14:45] Join us at the GSD Retreat
  • [15:46] What do you do with your arch nemesis?

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The GSD Mavens Share the Value of a Week-Long Entrepreneur Retreat #31

This episode is a special one where six GSD mavens join Maelisa and Amber to share their experiences from the week-long GSD entrepreneur retreat. You may not consider a week-long retreat to be a valuable use of your time, but these ladies will prove you wrong. Listen to this episode of My Biz Bestie to hear the GSD mavens explain why the week-long GSD entrepreneur retreat may be exactly what you need.

What benefits does Agnes Wainman see in GSD?

Agnes Wainman is a clinical psychologist in Ontario. She works with overwhelmed, worried women. It turns out that a week away from her practice helped her get so much done for her practice. She was amazed by the way that the other mavens provided her with a safe place to unleash all her emotional baggage. Being with really supportive women helped her to be vulnerable and open up. She felt that everyone there has built special friendships based on this entrepreneur retreat. Listen to Agnes’ perspective on the GSD retreat on episode 31 of My Biz Bestie.

Anna Osborne shares the value of her experience during the entrepreneur retreat

Anna Osborne thought that taking a week away helped her get perspective on how the systems in her business run. A week away afforded her the time to reflect on whether she had the right systems in place to help her business run efficiently. She was able to declutter the noise and distraction that a lot of her social media groups and friendships had become. The retreat allowed her to shift her perspective and redefine where she should spend her energy. She knows that it is so hard to leave your life for a week, but her advice is just to go do it. Listen to this episode to hear her tell you why you need a GSD retreat in your life.

Catherine O’Brien discusses what she gets out of the GSD retreat

Catherine O’Brien loves having a week that is completely uninterrupted. She found that she was able to take care of herself during that week. She feels that it is beneficial to take a whole week for an entrepreneur retreat because just 2 or 3 days simply isn’t enough time to decompress. She was able to take some downtime and also get so much done. She loves that each year their tribe gets to know each other even better. They discuss goals and check in with each other during their GSD week. Listen to Catherine describe the benefits of accountability during a week-long entrepreneur retreat.

Kami Storck shares about the bond that she experiences during GSD week

Kami loves the vibe of their group of women. She feels that the bond they have is amazing. They share their successes as well as their failures with each other and they revel in each other’s success. They have a tight bond even though they don’t talk regularly throughout the year. Their diversity helps them create their bond. Are you interested in finding a tight-knit group of like-minded women? Listen to Kami as she describes the tribe that GSD created on this episode of My Biz Bestie.

Lorena Duncan shares what is so special about the GSD bond

Lorena feels that the group has been a cohesive tribe. She is quite introverted yet she gelled with the group which is mainly made up of extroverts. She was able to just be herself and focus solely on her own needs. She loved the freedom of being able to get things done if that's what she wanted to do, or simply focus on herself. During her time at the entrepreneur retreat, she gave herself permission to be guilt-free. Listen to Lorena share her experience during this episode of My Biz Bestie

Nicol Stolar-Peterson talks about how GSD week helps her get big projects done

Nicol Stolar-Peterson loves that she is able to work on her business, not running her business while she takes a week for GSD. Being away helps clear the noise and work on big projects. She says that at home things always come up in her day to day life so that it is important to take the whole week to get amazing things done. Tasks that require intensive effort are accomplished because she can take large chunks of time to focus. Listen to Nicol’s perspective on the benefits of GSD week on this episode of My Biz Bestie.

In this episode...

  • [3:12] A bit about Agnes and her experience at GSD week
  • [14:53] Anna Osborne shares the value of her experience
  • [23:02] Catherine O’Brien discusses what she gets out of GSD week
  • [30:02] Kami Storck shares what she values most about GSD week
  • [39:23] Lorena Duncan shares what is so special about GSD week
  • [52:55] Nicol Stolar-Peterson talks about how GSD week helps her get projects done

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How a Business Friendship with Someone in a Different Niche Can Help You with Julie Fry and Nikki Rausch #30

Biz besties, Julie Fry and Nikki Rausch, join Maelisa and Amber in episode 30 of My Biz Bestie. Just because these two run different types of businesses doesn’t stop their business friendship. They have found that having a biz bestie with someone in a completely different niche to be really helpful. Julie leads a community of mom entrepreneurs. She knows all about the importance of getting to meet with people in real life and helps to facilitate that with inclusive live events. Nikki is a sales coach, speaker, and trainer. She understands the relationship side of selling and teaches people how to be authentic in a non-salesy way. Listen to this episode to hear how they found each other and how they are able to help each other generate ideas even though they are in different niches.

What is their business friendship like?

These two besties met when Julie reached out to Nikki after someone had mentioned that Nikki was an amazing sales coach and speaker. After Nikki spoke at Julie’s event, Nikki was so impressed that she wanted to join Julie’s organization even though she wasn’t a mom.  Although they live somewhat locally, they only meet in real life about every quarter. They do have a weekly phone meeting that they are sure to never miss. One amazing way that they keep their business friendship so positive is by starting each phone call by sharing one win they had that week. If you want to hear more about how they help motivate each other listen to this episode of My Biz Bestie.

TWEET THIS: What are their tips for other biz besties? Julie and Nikki have some amazing tips, but you’ll only get them if you listen to episode 30 of #MyBizBestie.

Their business friendship has morphed as their businesses have

They began their relationship as accountability partners but Julie and Nikki are both self-motivated so they realized they didn’t need as much accountability as they thought when they first began their friendship. Over time their relationship naturally morphed into one of idea generation instead. Now it is more of an idea exchange. Both Nikki and Julie have amazing ideas that they love sharing with each other. They often come up with ideas to help each other’s business as well. Even after two years of business friendship they still continue to add value to each other. Listen to this episode of My Biz Bestie to hear how their relationship has changed over time as their businesses have grown.

What is the biggest value in their relationship?

Nikki feels that the biggest value in their business friendship is having a trusted partner with whom she can lay all her cards on the table. She can show her whole messy life to Julie. Also, because Julie is more extroverted, she makes Nikki get out there and participate with others in real life. She has found that Julie has pushed her a bit outside her comfort zone and this has helped her business grow. They both agree that the best relationships bring out the best in each person. Julie feels that Nikki is so helpful that she makes Julie become the best version of herself. Have you found a biz bestie relationship that brings out the best in you? Listen to Julie and Nikki share what is so special about their relationship on this episode of My Biz Bestie.

What are their tips for other biz besties?

One tip that they share is to find an accountability partner who is in a similar stage of their business. If someone is way ahead of you in their business building stage it can make you feel weird and throw your relationship off balance. Try and ensure that both biz besties are on similar trajectories. Another way to define the biz bestie relationship is to set some parameters at the beginning of the relationship. Give it a try to see if the relationship is a good fit for a quarter. You want to make sure that the relationship will serve both you and your business well. Julie and Nikki have some more amazing tips, but you’ll only get them if you listen to episode 30 of My Biz Bestie.

In this episode...

  • [2:12] Meet Julie Fry and Nikki Rausch
  • [4:43] Check out our GSD Retreat
  • [5:45] How did they meet?
  • [7:11] How often do they meet in real life?
  • [12:13] Their relationship has morphed as their businesses have
  • [14:53] Have they had biz besties in the past?
  • [19:55] What was Julie thinking when she first looked for an accountability partner?
  • [23:03] What is the biggest value in their relationship?
  • [25:15] What are their biz bestie tips?

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Do You Need Accountability? Join Our Networking Challenge #29

Networking can be a weak point for many entrepreneurs. Sometimes entrepreneurs get so caught up in the day to day aspects of their business that they forget that networking is one of the easiest ways to grow their business. Maelisa and Amber are expert networkers who occasionally need some accountability to get things done. This is why they are excited to announce their June Networking Accountability Challenge. This challenge will happen live on Facebook every Thursday in June at noon PST starting June 7. Feel free to pop into the Facebook group with questions. Listen to this episode of My Biz Bestie to hear more about the networking challenge.

What is your intention with networking?

Before you begin networking ask yourself, what is your intention? Everyone is at a different stage in their business and has different goals for networking. Determine what you need right now in your business so that you can decide what path you want to take. Think about what your intention is and pop on by the Facebook page on June 7 at 12 pm PST to tell Maelisa and Amber what your networking goal is for this June Networking Accountability Challenge. Listen to this episode to hear more about the networking challenge and how to make the most out of your networking experience.

TWEET THIS: What is your intention with #networking? Listen to this episode to hear more about the Networking Accountability Challenge and how to make the most out of your networking experience.

There is value in meeting people in person

Sometimes introverts have an aversion to networking in person. Many online business owners don’t think there is much reason for them to attend in-person networking events and prefer to network online. But there is real value in meeting people in person. You have different kinds of discussions in-person than online. The online space is inundated with distractions so meeting people face to face can provide a deeper connection. Join the networking challenge to prioritize networking and grow your business. Listen to this episode of My Biz Bestie to hear more about how you can join the Network Accountability Challenge and get some great networking tips as well.

Choose a weekly item to focus on

Networking is a big topic and can mean several different things. During this networking challenge, choose an item to focus on weekly. This could be attending one live networking event a week, sending out an email to someone you haven’t contacted in awhile, or meeting someone new each week. Think about what your networking intentions are to help guide you in your weekly focus. The Networking Accountability Challenge will help you stay on track and realize your networking goals. Listen to this episode of My Biz Bestie to hear fantastic tips on how to focus your networking goals.

Networking should be fun

So many people dread networking. If this is you, then change what you are doing. Networking should be fun. When you make networking something you look forward to, then you won’t hesitate to do it. Find a Meet-up with like-minded people and do things you enjoy. There is a benefit in simply meeting new people. When you invest in people and build relationships you invest in yourself and your business. Listen to this episode of My Biz Bestie to hear more about the June networking challenge, Maelisa, and Amber’s new networking master class and to hear tips on how to enjoy networking.

In this episode...

  • [0:44] Introducing the Networking Accountability Challenge
  • [4:02] What is your goal for this networking challenge?
  • [6:02] There is value in meeting people in person
  • [8:18] Try and choose one thing a week to focus on
  • [8:47] What can you do?
  • [10:44] Networking should be fun
  • [13:14] Offer something of value
  • [14:49] Announcing our networking masterclass

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Find Me a Business Bestie with Vickie Maris #28

On this episode of My Biz Bestie, Maelisa and Amber embark on a challenge: to find a business bestie for Vickie Maris. Vickie met Maelisa and Amber at Social Media Marketing World and was intrigued by the idea of finding a biz bestie. The gals thought that this would be a fantastic idea for an episode. Consider this the Tinder of podcast episodes, but for biz besties! Vickie shares a bit about her life and why she is looking for a business bestie on episode 28 of My Biz Bestie. Listen in to hear if she is just right for you!

Vickie knows how to multi-task

Vickie Maris is not someone who has all her eggs in one basket. To say that she has a diverse range of interests is a huge understatement. Vickie lives out in the country, where she raises all kinds of animals from horses, to llamas, to rabbits. She has two podcasts, she has helped her aging parents write their memoirs, she is a course designer, and works at a university. Vickie does not know how to do just one thing. Does this sound like you? Are you innately curious and want to find a way to do it all? Listen to this episode of My Biz Bestie to see if Vickie might seem like the right business bestie for you!

TWEET THIS:  How do you find a biz bestie? Listen to this helpful conversation on #MyBizBestie to hear great ways to #network and find the business #bestie that is just right for you

Everyone tells her to just niche down

Vickie Maris doesn’t want to niche down. A lifelong learner, she is naturally curious and wants to implement her entire wealth of ideas. Vickie also has a day job and a farm, and aging parents whom she helps care for. She realizes that networking is important and is excited to make connections with people who understand what she does and all the terminology that goes with it. She is hungry for conversations about marketing or online courses. Vickie would love to find a biz bestie who is also building a business on the side. Listen to this episode to hear about Vickie’s journey. Who knows, maybe your biz bestie is waiting to meet you.

How do you find a biz bestie?

Finding a biz bestie is a bit like dating. Maelisa and Amber have mentioned this several times in various episodes of this podcast. Some people might think it a bit odd when you mention that you are looking for a biz bestie. This is why Vickie simply mentions that she is interested in networking. Networking is a great way to find a business bestie. You never know who you might connect with when you are networking. There are many ways to network: you can find different Facebook groups, Meetup events, connect through LinkedIn, have a virtual coffee date, or even a real one. Networking is key to finding a biz bestie and connecting with like-minded business owners who can begin to understand what you are going through. Listen to this helpful conversation to hear great ways to network and find the business bestie that is just right for you.

What does a biz bestie mean to you?

A business support system is integral to helping grow your business. Biz besties can help you to keep your perspective while you think about building your business and growing personally. Mindset can be the biggest challenge to growing any business. This is where the biz bestie comes in. A business bestie can help you get into the right frame of mind, they can be someone with whom you can bounce ideas off of, or share the ups and downs of your day. Listen to this episode to hear how you can begin to find your biz bestie so that you can find someone to support you with your ideas, successes, and failures.

In this episode...

  • [2:12] Getting to know Vickie Maris
  • [10:02] a business support system can help you grow
  • [13:04] She is hungry for conversation
  • [19:08] It is important for her to be on the same journey as her biz bestie
  • [27:40] Has she connected with anyone on LinkedIn?
  • [29:22] How to make connections
  • [39:05] What kind of ideas does she now have?

Resources & People Mentioned

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