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How to Use the Enneagram in Relationships with Chrissie Wywrot #46

Do you know how to use the Enneagram in relationships? Amber and Maelisa love how much personality tests can help people learn about themselves and interact with others. Enneagram expert, Chrissie Wywrot joins the My Biz Bestie podcast to discuss this fascinating ancient tool that can help you discover more about yourself and others that are close to you. Find out more about the Enneagram and how you can use it to improve your relationships in both your personal life and in your professional life on this episode of My Biz Bestie.

What is the Enneagram?

The Enneagram actually dates back thousands of years and has been interpreted by many different people. Many think it is a personality test, but it is less about personality and more about how people are hard-wired. The Enneagram helps people understand what the ego wants and what people show to the world. There are 9 different types that are divided into 3 tri-types. The 3 tri-types are focused on the head space, the gut space, and the heart space. Discover how the Enneagram can help you bring about self-awareness.

What are the different Enneagram types?

There are 9 Enneagram types divided into a circle. Number 1 is internally focused and often hard on herself. 2’s are helpers who love to lift up others. 3’s are success-driven and often charismatic leaders. People with type 4 have great idealistic visions and strong feelings. Intellectuals with social phobias are often number 5. Type 6 includes helpers that tend toward anxiety. 7’s are thinkers that are externally focused. Do you know a leader that tends to be a bit aggressive? They may be an 8. People that hate conflict are often 9’s. Listen to this episode to see if you can discover which Enneagram type you are.

What leads to the differences between people with the same number?

You may be thinking, how can these 9 different personality types describe everyone in the world. Well, the magical thing about the Enneagram is the way the types connect with the other numbers. There are many components that go along with people’s personalities and their Enneagram numbers. The numbers on either side of your Enneagram number are called the wings and the relationships across from your number are the arrows. Do you know your Enneagram number? How do you use it to better your relationships?

Discover how to use the Enneagram in relationships

Learning the Enneagram is an incredible journey in self-awareness. The numbers aren’t simply personality types but ways to understand how to manage your natural tendencies. Learning your number and that of those close to you is a great way to begin to use the Enneagram in relationships. It is a journey to figure it out and how you can grow and change as a person. Are you looking to understand why you do what you do or how you can relate to others? Find out how to use the Enneagram to improve your relationships on this episode of My Biz Bestie.

In this episode...

  • [3:12] What is the Enneagram?

  • [5:03] What are the different Enneagram types?

  • [12:01] There are 9 levels of health within each number

  • [16:22] What leads to the differences between people with the same number?

  • [23:54] Learning the Enneagram is a great way to understand relationships

  • [32:47] How can people learn more about the Enneagram?

Resources & People Mentioned

Connect with Chrissie Wywrot

Connect With Maelisa and Amber

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How to Deal with Perfectionism in Your Life and Business #44

Learn how to deal with perfectionism on this episode of My Biz Bestie. Do you struggle as a perfectionist? Amber is a recovering perfectionist, and although she claims that she has zero f***s to give, occasionally her perfectionist tendencies get the better of her. You can be a perfectionist and learn how to not have everything perfect 100% of the time. On this episode, you will learn helpful tips on how to deal with perfectionism and strategies you can use to improve your work and yourself.

There is a fine line between professional looking work and being perfect

Even if you struggle with perfectionism you can still appreciate something that looks professional and polished and you can learn to accept that it is not perfect. However just because something isn’t perfect doesn’t mean that it is unprofessional. Your work should still continue to be good. What is important is that the content is excellent but it is ok if the packaging needs a bit of a shine. If you feel overwhelmed, hiring someone to do something to help out is a great way to eliminate the pressure of being overworked. Where do you draw the line between perfectionism and professional?

Timing is everything

We all have times of day when we are at our optimal performance. When is yours? It is important to know when you are not going to be your best and make sure that you don’t schedule important work during this time. It feels awful when you don’t present your best work to the world. One way to ensure that you are working on something during your best time is to prioritize and decide what you need to focus on during different times of the day. How do you deal with scheduling your work? Listen to this episode to hear how knowing your optimal time of day can help you do your best work.

How to deal with perfectionism when you are also a procrastinator

There is a terrible paradox that perfectionists frequently procrastinate. This is due to the fact that they are worried that they won’t do their best work so they keep putting things off and they end up sabotaging themselves. When you don’t give yourself time to truly prepare then you certainly don’t do your best work. There are some things that you can do your best work at the last minute, but there are other things that need plenty of preparation. This is when it is important to prioritize your time and decide what you need to focus on. Sometimes you can’t just power through and get things done. There are some projects that won’t wait until the last minute. Let us know how you deal with your perfectionism in the comments!

Do you let self-talk bring you down?

One area that is the most challenging for the perfectionist is self-talk. If a perfectionist misses a deadline or does less than optimal work then they can beat themselves up. Rather than beating yourself up over something that was less than perfect, think about how you could have done better. Learn how to set yourself up for success the next time. There is no shame in not doing your best work, just try and learn from your mistake and move forward. You can use your inner circle or biz bestie to help give you honest feedback so that you can learn from your mistake.

In this episode...

  • [1:12] There is a fine line between perfectionism and having it look professional

  • [6:04] Know when you are not going to be your best

  • [10:22] Perfectionists are often procrastinators

  • [14:44] Know your optimal times of day

  • [18:44] Are you letting self-talk bring you down?

  • [21:42] Timing matters

  • [25:33] Having a community can help

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How to Cope with Entrepreneur Depression and Mental Health Disorders #40

Entrepreneurship and mental health disorders can go hand-in-hand. The truth is that entrepreneurs have a tendency to believe that everyone else is doing just fine and that they are the only ones struggling. But that’s just not true. Mental health conditions affect so many entrepreneurs, their issues can range from ADHD, to anxiety, to depression. Entrepreneur depression can be exacerbated by the isolation that comes with entrepreneurship. If you or someone you know struggles with mental health issues listen to this episode to learn more about how to cope.

Half of entrepreneurs say that they have at least one mental health condition

Many entrepreneurs deal with depression and anxiety. These two conditions can be seen as two sides to the same coin. Anxiety impacts how you focus on the future and depression can have you focused too much on the past. Entrepreneur depression can be exacerbated by the seeming isolation of entrepreneurship. But the truth is that there are so many entrepreneurs dealing with depression and a range of other mental health issues. So if you think you are the only one, please know that you are not alone!

TWEET THIS: Half of #entrepreneurs say that they have at least one mental health conditions, so if you think you are the only one, please know that you are not alone!

Many entrepreneurs overcompensate for their weaknesses

After being told your whole life that you are lazy or that your issues are just in your head, many decide to prove to the world just how hard they can work. While having a strong work ethic is a wonderful trait, many with ADHD become workaholics and/or perfectionists to compensate for their perceived laziness. Maelisa ended up turning her weakness of being disorganized into a strength by learning organizational skills. She then took it a step further and created a business out of it. Have you found that you overcompensate for a weakness?

Acknowledge that you have a weakness then learn how to manage it

So you’re no superhero. This is not news. Having a weakness is okay! Take a page from the addiction handbook and first acknowledge that you have a problem. The next step is to figure out how to deal with it. What is it you really need? Do you need time management? A team to delegate tasks to? Do you need to see a therapist? Ask a friend for a recommendation. Should you be managing your condition with medication? Do whatever it is that you need to do to care for yourself. Listen to this episode to help you think about your conditions and discover the best solution that works for you.

If you give your business everything than you won’t have anything left for the rest of your life

Having clear boundaries between work and home life can be tricky for the entrepreneur that works from home, but it is an important step in creating a healthy work/life balance. It is easy to associate your business’s success or failure with your own worth. It's hard to manage passion and focus while separating yourself from your business’s success or failure. With high achieving personality then you feel like you must do it all. How do you make time for your hobbies, family, and relationships alongside your business? Listen to this episode to get ideas on how to maintain a healthy work/life balance.

In this episode...

  • [2:12] Half of entrepreneurs say that they have at least one mental health condition

  • [6:20] Many overcompensate for their weaknesses

  • [9:53] Admit that you have a problem and that you must care for it

  • [12:47] You have to have a safe network to share your vulnerability

  • [16:49] Money is our biggest metric to measure success

  • [19:36] If you give your business everything than you won’t have anything left for the rest of your life

  • [26:58] If you are genuinely struggling with mental health issues see a professional

Resources & People Mentioned

Connect With Maelisa and Amber

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Discover How Biz Besties Stick Together Through Business Growth with Jaclyn Mellone and Jessica Stansberry #38

Jaclyn Mellone and Jessica Stansberry from the All Up in Your Lady Business podcast join Amber and Maelisa on this episode of My Biz Bestie. In case you were wondering, All Up in Your Lady Business is a business podcast. . . not a gynecology podcast. These biz besties discuss their whirlwind biz bestie romance and how their relationship stays strong after 3 years into it. If you think a biz bestie relationship is something that takes time to develop, Jaclyn and Jessica are here to prove you wrong. Listen to this episode as the marketing strategist and the mindset guru describe how their biz bestie relationship helped them with business growth.

These besties had a whirlwind romance

Jaclyn and Jessica became fast friends after what was to be a quick call about becoming an affiliate. Jessica was offering a course and Jaclyn wanted to use her extensive Instagram influence to become an affiliate for the course. Their quick business phone call turned into a 3-hour conversation. For those of you that think that you need loads of time to cultivate the perfect biz bestie friendship, you need to listen to this episode to hear Jaclyn and Jessica describe how they met. Listen to this episode to hear about their whirlwind bestie romance.

TWEET THIS: For those of you that think that you need loads of time to cultivate the perfect #BizBestie friendship, you need to listen to this episode of #MyBizBestie to hear @JaclynMellone and @Jessfluential describe how they met.


When did they decide to do their podcast?

Shortly after Jaclyn and Jessica became such fast friends they rushed into another big decision. Jessica proposed that they begin a podcast together. Jaclyn, being as savvy and entrepreneurial-minded as she is, negotiated the terms of their deal and just weeks after becoming biz besties, the All Up in Your Lady Business Podcast was born. Shortly after deciding to launch the podcast they met in real life for the first time. They had their first photo shoot and the rest is podcasting history. Listen to this episode to hear how Jaclyn and Jessica’s whirlwind romance turned into a successful business venture that has been going 3 years strong.

Similar pacing is important in a biz bestie relationship

Over the past three years that Jessica and Jaclyn have been friends both of their businesses have changed, shifted, and grown. They attribute their support for one another as a big factor in each other’s success and business growth. These biz besties constantly push each other to do more. Their businesses have grown at about the same pace. The biz besties agree that similar pacing is an important factor in maintaining a business relationship through the growth of businesses. Listen to episode 38 to hear how important it is to have a biz bestie through your business growth.

Having a business support system is just as important as having a biz bestie

Jessica and Jaclyn don’t just rely on each other to help them stay focused on their businesses. They also rely on their own inner circles to help them set goals, stay focused, and grow their businesses. They have also learned that having a circle that understands their business is important to their business growth. Within their inner circles, they can speak the same language of their business and discuss goals with people that understand the ins and outs of their business model. Listen to this episode to hear how important it is to have a network of people who understand your business.

In this episode...

  • [5:22] Jaclyn and Jessica tell their love story

  • [12:34] How did their first in-person meeting go?

  • [17:00] They both have been able to grow their business

  • [19:01] How do they communicate?

  • [23:20] Have they had any other biz besties?

  • [28:19] What other benefits have they seen in having a biz bestie?

Resources & People Mentioned

Connect with Jessica Stansberry and Jaclyn Mellone

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Taking Productivity to a Whole New Level at The GSD Work Retreat #37

The My Biz Bestie GSD work retreat was a fantastic getaway enjoyed by 4 hard-working women. These ladies brought the right mindset and achieved greatness over the 4-day retreat. This retreat was the first time Maelisa and Amber hosted a retreat themselves and they spend this episode reflecting on who worked, what worked, and why it worked. Listen to this episode to hear what the participants thought and to discover if a work retreat is exactly what you need to get stuff done.

Accountability and structure were the keys to GSD

Amber was totally floored at how much the women were able to get done in 4 short days. Hosting this work retreat helped her see the value of having someone taking charge and pushing and challenging the participants to narrow their focus not just for the week but for the day and even for the hour. Amber and Maelisa both saw the value in the structure that they provided on the retreat. They understand how holding the participants accountable really contributed to them getting done so much work. Amber enjoyed helping the women find their focus and help them develop a clear vision of what they wanted to accomplish during the stay. Are you curious about what you could get done during a GSD work retreat? Listen to this episode to hear how Amber and Maelisa helped the group find their focus and hold each member accountable so that they achieved maximum output.

TWEET THIS: Are you ready to tackle your to-do list? Join Amber and Maelisa for a live 3 hour Pomodoro session on Thursday, October 25 from 10-1 PST. Register at MyBizBestie.com/coworking

What is a Pomodoro session?

One of the ways that Amber and Maelisa were able to provide structure to the work sessions was by using the Pomodoro technique. Pomodoro is a style of working in which you are focused for 25 minutes and then take a 5-minute break. You can adjust the timeframe to increase the amount of time. The technique is based on research that our brains need consistent breaks to really work their best. A full day using Pomodoro is 6 hours with an hour break. Using the Pomodoro method not only increases productivity but manages your energy output. When using Pomodoro sessions, at the end of the day you don’t feel so drained and exhausted. It helps to trick your brain to tackle a task that you avoid doing. Listen to this episode to hear how Amber and Maelisa used the Pomodoro method to help the participants at the GSD retreat stay focused and get it all done.

What did the GSD participants think of their weekend of productivity?

The 4 GSD entrepreneurs chime in on how the weekend affected them and their business. Dr. Caryn Banque was finally able to write the copy and get her website live after paying for it for 2 years! Molly Ann, a home designer, appreciated being able to review her work with a unique perspective. Jasmin Jourdenais was able to plan the big picture, she loved the visual techniques used to help stay focused. Theresa Tschannen was able to declutter all the things that were creating background noise and preventing her from working on her business. Listen to these ladies describe in person how productive their GSD work retreat was for them on this episode of My Biz Bestie.

Are you ready to master your to-do list?

Are you curious about how the Pomodoro technique might increase your productivity? Amber and Maelisa invite you to a live 3 hour Pomodoro session. You can sit wherever you are and take 3 hours of your time to tackle your to-do list. Amber and Maelisa will be there to help you with the structure and accountability that will push you to get it all done. Join them on Thursday, October 25 from 10-1 PST. They will help you brainstorm before the session to discuss what it is you would like to accomplish, they’ll hold you accountable, and help you celebrate as you master your to-do list. Join them by registering at MyBizBestie.com/coworking

In this episode...

  • [1:42] Amber’s takeaway’s from the retreat

  • [7:04] What is a Pomodoro session?

  • [13:54] What did Caryn think of the retreat?

  • [19:03] What did Molly Ann take away from the GSD retreat?

  • [22:15] Jasmine Jorurdenais had never dedicated so much time on her business

  • [31:22] Therese Grieco knew she needed a GSD weekend to focus on her business

Resources & People Mentioned

Connect with the GSD Retreat Participants

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How to Maximize Your Money Mindset #36

Episode 36 is a bit of a nostalgic one for Maelisa and Amber since they reminisce on how they met. On this episode they discuss the book Get Rich Lucky Bitch. The dynamic duo actually met while reading this book as part of an online book club. They both grew to be huge fans of the author, Denise Duffield-Thomas. Your money mindset can be a bit of a woo-woo topic, but having the right mindset about money really does impact every part of your life. How you think about money can affect your business, your relationships, and your home life. Listen to this episode to hear how to maximize your money mindset.

What you focus on is what you will manifest

Yes, manifesting is totally a woo-woo topic, but there is a bit of science behind it. If you make something your focus and you concentrate on achieving it you can change the outcome by changing behaviors that open up new opportunities. Changing your mindset about a topic like money will change your beliefs about what you can make happen. The stories that you tell yourself impact what you do and how you act. Amber was able to help change the way she thinks about money by no longer telling people that she likes to spend money as much as she makes it. Something as small as this can really affect behavior. Whatever you focus your mind on will expand this can be either in a positive or in a negative way. Listen to this episode to learn how to manifest a good money mindset.

TWEET THIS: Listen to this episode and post a picture of yourself listening on your Instagram page. Be sure to tag us @MyBizBestie for a chance to win the book Get Rich Lucky Bitch!

Money is a huge piece of making your entrepreneurial journey more fun

You may be wondering why a show that focuses on business relationships is discussing money. That is because money is such a big piece of your entrepreneurial journey. If you can improve your relationship with money, your entrepreneurial journey will be much more fun. Money has much more to do with emotions than you think, it’s not just numbers. Changing your emotional response to money is a big step toward changing your money mindset. Listen to this important episode about money mindset to help you make your entrepreneurial journey more fun.

Money is a constant growth area

Unfortunately, you can’t simply change your money mindset and then walk away. As you and your business change and grow you must continually reassess your relationship with money. Like every other relationship you have, you’re always working through something when it comes to money. Your money mindset must continue to grow and evolve as you make more money. You also need to be wary of how other people’s money mindset issues can hold you back. Surround yourself with people that have a good relationship with money to help you to improve your money mindset. Listen to this episode to hear tips on how to change your money mindset and continue to grow with your money.

If you constantly compare yourself to others you will never measure up

It is can be easy to stress out when you compare yourself with other people. You need to remember that not everyone is completely honest about how much money they have made. When someone says that they made a million dollars, they may not be disclosing that they actually spent 1.2 million to get there. When you put pressure on yourself you cannot enjoy your successes. Remember that not every business will make millions of dollars. It is important to consider what rich means to you. Listen to this episode and post a picture of yourself listening on your Instagram page. Be sure to tag us @MyBizBestie for a chance to win the book Get Rich Lucky Bitch!

In this episode...

  • [1:12] Maelisa and Amber reminisce on how they met

  • [2:50] Money mindset affects not just your business but your every day life

  • [6:44] Is there a science behind manifesting?

  • [9:38] A huge mindset shift takes place in girls during puberty

  • [12:12] Amber has changed her story when it comes to money

  • [16:16] In a relationship, there can be differing mindsets on money

  • [18:24] If you constantly compare yourself to others you will never measure up

  • [26:22] Not every business is meant to make a million dollars

  • [28:15] Post a picture of you listening to this episode on your Instagram page and tag us @MyBizBestie

Resources & People Mentioned

Connect With Maelisa and Amber

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Connecting with Business Besties (and Bros) with Katie Vernoy and Curt Widhalm #25

Connecting with Business Besties (and Bros) with Katie Vernoy and Curt Widhalm #25

Katie Vernoy and Curt Widhalm join Maelisa and Amber on the podcast for a My Biz Bestie first. Curt is the first guy to join the show, proving that biz besties can even be biz bros! Curt and Katie share their origin story, get real about their friendship, and share the juicy details on their joint business and how they are able to balance each other out…