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How to Deal with Perfectionism in Your Life and Business #44

Learn how to deal with perfectionism on this episode of My Biz Bestie. Do you struggle as a perfectionist? Amber is a recovering perfectionist, and although she claims that she has zero f***s to give, occasionally her perfectionist tendencies get the better of her. You can be a perfectionist and learn how to not have everything perfect 100% of the time. On this episode, you will learn helpful tips on how to deal with perfectionism and strategies you can use to improve your work and yourself.

There is a fine line between professional looking work and being perfect

Even if you struggle with perfectionism you can still appreciate something that looks professional and polished and you can learn to accept that it is not perfect. However just because something isn’t perfect doesn’t mean that it is unprofessional. Your work should still continue to be good. What is important is that the content is excellent but it is ok if the packaging needs a bit of a shine. If you feel overwhelmed, hiring someone to do something to help out is a great way to eliminate the pressure of being overworked. Where do you draw the line between perfectionism and professional?

Timing is everything

We all have times of day when we are at our optimal performance. When is yours? It is important to know when you are not going to be your best and make sure that you don’t schedule important work during this time. It feels awful when you don’t present your best work to the world. One way to ensure that you are working on something during your best time is to prioritize and decide what you need to focus on during different times of the day. How do you deal with scheduling your work? Listen to this episode to hear how knowing your optimal time of day can help you do your best work.

How to deal with perfectionism when you are also a procrastinator

There is a terrible paradox that perfectionists frequently procrastinate. This is due to the fact that they are worried that they won’t do their best work so they keep putting things off and they end up sabotaging themselves. When you don’t give yourself time to truly prepare then you certainly don’t do your best work. There are some things that you can do your best work at the last minute, but there are other things that need plenty of preparation. This is when it is important to prioritize your time and decide what you need to focus on. Sometimes you can’t just power through and get things done. There are some projects that won’t wait until the last minute. Let us know how you deal with your perfectionism in the comments!

Do you let self-talk bring you down?

One area that is the most challenging for the perfectionist is self-talk. If a perfectionist misses a deadline or does less than optimal work then they can beat themselves up. Rather than beating yourself up over something that was less than perfect, think about how you could have done better. Learn how to set yourself up for success the next time. There is no shame in not doing your best work, just try and learn from your mistake and move forward. You can use your inner circle or biz bestie to help give you honest feedback so that you can learn from your mistake.

In this episode...

  • [1:12] There is a fine line between perfectionism and having it look professional

  • [6:04] Know when you are not going to be your best

  • [10:22] Perfectionists are often procrastinators

  • [14:44] Know your optimal times of day

  • [18:44] Are you letting self-talk bring you down?

  • [21:42] Timing matters

  • [25:33] Having a community can help

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How to Cope with Entrepreneur Depression and Mental Health Disorders #40

Entrepreneurship and mental health disorders can go hand-in-hand. The truth is that entrepreneurs have a tendency to believe that everyone else is doing just fine and that they are the only ones struggling. But that’s just not true. Mental health conditions affect so many entrepreneurs, their issues can range from ADHD, to anxiety, to depression. Entrepreneur depression can be exacerbated by the isolation that comes with entrepreneurship. If you or someone you know struggles with mental health issues listen to this episode to learn more about how to cope.

Half of entrepreneurs say that they have at least one mental health condition

Many entrepreneurs deal with depression and anxiety. These two conditions can be seen as two sides to the same coin. Anxiety impacts how you focus on the future and depression can have you focused too much on the past. Entrepreneur depression can be exacerbated by the seeming isolation of entrepreneurship. But the truth is that there are so many entrepreneurs dealing with depression and a range of other mental health issues. So if you think you are the only one, please know that you are not alone!

TWEET THIS: Half of #entrepreneurs say that they have at least one mental health conditions, so if you think you are the only one, please know that you are not alone!

Many entrepreneurs overcompensate for their weaknesses

After being told your whole life that you are lazy or that your issues are just in your head, many decide to prove to the world just how hard they can work. While having a strong work ethic is a wonderful trait, many with ADHD become workaholics and/or perfectionists to compensate for their perceived laziness. Maelisa ended up turning her weakness of being disorganized into a strength by learning organizational skills. She then took it a step further and created a business out of it. Have you found that you overcompensate for a weakness?

Acknowledge that you have a weakness then learn how to manage it

So you’re no superhero. This is not news. Having a weakness is okay! Take a page from the addiction handbook and first acknowledge that you have a problem. The next step is to figure out how to deal with it. What is it you really need? Do you need time management? A team to delegate tasks to? Do you need to see a therapist? Ask a friend for a recommendation. Should you be managing your condition with medication? Do whatever it is that you need to do to care for yourself. Listen to this episode to help you think about your conditions and discover the best solution that works for you.

If you give your business everything than you won’t have anything left for the rest of your life

Having clear boundaries between work and home life can be tricky for the entrepreneur that works from home, but it is an important step in creating a healthy work/life balance. It is easy to associate your business’s success or failure with your own worth. It's hard to manage passion and focus while separating yourself from your business’s success or failure. With high achieving personality then you feel like you must do it all. How do you make time for your hobbies, family, and relationships alongside your business? Listen to this episode to get ideas on how to maintain a healthy work/life balance.

In this episode...

  • [2:12] Half of entrepreneurs say that they have at least one mental health condition

  • [6:20] Many overcompensate for their weaknesses

  • [9:53] Admit that you have a problem and that you must care for it

  • [12:47] You have to have a safe network to share your vulnerability

  • [16:49] Money is our biggest metric to measure success

  • [19:36] If you give your business everything than you won’t have anything left for the rest of your life

  • [26:58] If you are genuinely struggling with mental health issues see a professional

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Why Having a Team is Actually Important for Self-Care #39

There will always be items on your to-do list, no matter how much you work on your business. You could work all day, every day and still not get everything done. But work-life balance is so important to maintaining your health. One way to help you discover that elusive line that distinguishes the right balance of work and life is to hire a team. When most people think of building a team for their business they think of growing or scaling their business. But having a team is about much more than just building your business, it can provide self-care as well. On this episode of My Biz Bestie, Maelisa and Amber explain why having a team may be just what the doctor ordered.

Having a team is all about self-care

Ask anyone who has hired someone to help them in their business and they will tell you that they wish they had hired someone sooner. When you are trying to do it all you are the one who really suffers. Entrepreneurs tend to get so busy with work, building their business, and trying to keep up with the demands of their everyday life, that they forget to take care of themselves. Put money aside for a moment and think about if hiring someone to do certain tasks for you would improve your mental health. If you are feeling overworked then you will want to listen to this episode to hear how you can use a team to help practice self-care.

TWEET THIS: If you are feeling overworked then you will want to listen to this episode of #MyBizBestie to hear how you can use a team to help practice #SelfCare.

What are other options you can consider besides hiring someone in your business?

There are other ways to care for yourself and your business rather than just hiring someone for your business. You might be better off hiring someone to clean your house or cook meals for your family. Think about what causes you the most stress. How could you relieve that stress? Sometimes its just easier to find someone to help you with your busy life. There are people out there that can help you with every aspect of your life: a meal delivery service, cleaning lady, meal planning service, or even a nanny. Think about how can you take care of yourself so that you don’t hit the wall and completely shut down.

You can’t afford to not help yourself

People often say that they can’t afford help, but the reality is that they can’t afford to not find a way to practice self-care. Once you look at the grand scheme of things self-care is worth every penny. Your health and well being are most important because once you break down, coming back is much more challenging. If you do reach the point of break down you might get physically ill and have to spend money on doctors and treatments as well as deal with the loss of business while you take time off to heal. What's the point of having a successful business if you’re too sick to enjoy it! Listen to this episode of My Biz Bestie to hear how important self-care is to you and your business.

What should your first hire be?

There are so many things that you can actually delegate to others. You could get a graphic designer, a web designer, a bookkeeper, a VA or even a copywriter. Finding the right help is pretty easy and it doesn’t require a payroll or a huge time commitment. You can use resources like Fiverr and Upwork to help you find someone to fill the tasks you need. So think about it, what tasks can you delegate? Do you need help at home more or in your business? Where would you get the most value? Listen to this episode to help you learn how to build your team so that you can invest in your most important resource: yourself!

In this episode...

  • [1:12] There will always be items on your to-do list

  • [3:52] How can you take care of yourself?

  • [8:02] Set boundaries to help you

  • [11:50] You can’t afford to not help yourself

  • [16:33] What should your first hire be?

  • [20:46] We all need time away from work

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Taking Productivity to a Whole New Level at The GSD Work Retreat #37

The My Biz Bestie GSD work retreat was a fantastic getaway enjoyed by 4 hard-working women. These ladies brought the right mindset and achieved greatness over the 4-day retreat. This retreat was the first time Maelisa and Amber hosted a retreat themselves and they spend this episode reflecting on who worked, what worked, and why it worked. Listen to this episode to hear what the participants thought and to discover if a work retreat is exactly what you need to get stuff done.

Accountability and structure were the keys to GSD

Amber was totally floored at how much the women were able to get done in 4 short days. Hosting this work retreat helped her see the value of having someone taking charge and pushing and challenging the participants to narrow their focus not just for the week but for the day and even for the hour. Amber and Maelisa both saw the value in the structure that they provided on the retreat. They understand how holding the participants accountable really contributed to them getting done so much work. Amber enjoyed helping the women find their focus and help them develop a clear vision of what they wanted to accomplish during the stay. Are you curious about what you could get done during a GSD work retreat? Listen to this episode to hear how Amber and Maelisa helped the group find their focus and hold each member accountable so that they achieved maximum output.

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What is a Pomodoro session?

One of the ways that Amber and Maelisa were able to provide structure to the work sessions was by using the Pomodoro technique. Pomodoro is a style of working in which you are focused for 25 minutes and then take a 5-minute break. You can adjust the timeframe to increase the amount of time. The technique is based on research that our brains need consistent breaks to really work their best. A full day using Pomodoro is 6 hours with an hour break. Using the Pomodoro method not only increases productivity but manages your energy output. When using Pomodoro sessions, at the end of the day you don’t feel so drained and exhausted. It helps to trick your brain to tackle a task that you avoid doing. Listen to this episode to hear how Amber and Maelisa used the Pomodoro method to help the participants at the GSD retreat stay focused and get it all done.

What did the GSD participants think of their weekend of productivity?

The 4 GSD entrepreneurs chime in on how the weekend affected them and their business. Dr. Caryn Banque was finally able to write the copy and get her website live after paying for it for 2 years! Molly Ann, a home designer, appreciated being able to review her work with a unique perspective. Jasmin Jourdenais was able to plan the big picture, she loved the visual techniques used to help stay focused. Theresa Tschannen was able to declutter all the things that were creating background noise and preventing her from working on her business. Listen to these ladies describe in person how productive their GSD work retreat was for them on this episode of My Biz Bestie.

Are you ready to master your to-do list?

Are you curious about how the Pomodoro technique might increase your productivity? Amber and Maelisa invite you to a live 3 hour Pomodoro session. You can sit wherever you are and take 3 hours of your time to tackle your to-do list. Amber and Maelisa will be there to help you with the structure and accountability that will push you to get it all done. Join them on Thursday, October 25 from 10-1 PST. They will help you brainstorm before the session to discuss what it is you would like to accomplish, they’ll hold you accountable, and help you celebrate as you master your to-do list. Join them by registering at MyBizBestie.com/coworking

In this episode...

  • [1:42] Amber’s takeaway’s from the retreat

  • [7:04] What is a Pomodoro session?

  • [13:54] What did Caryn think of the retreat?

  • [19:03] What did Molly Ann take away from the GSD retreat?

  • [22:15] Jasmine Jorurdenais had never dedicated so much time on her business

  • [31:22] Therese Grieco knew she needed a GSD weekend to focus on her business

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How to Maximize Your Money Mindset #36

Episode 36 is a bit of a nostalgic one for Maelisa and Amber since they reminisce on how they met. On this episode they discuss the book Get Rich Lucky Bitch. The dynamic duo actually met while reading this book as part of an online book club. They both grew to be huge fans of the author, Denise Duffield-Thomas. Your money mindset can be a bit of a woo-woo topic, but having the right mindset about money really does impact every part of your life. How you think about money can affect your business, your relationships, and your home life. Listen to this episode to hear how to maximize your money mindset.

What you focus on is what you will manifest

Yes, manifesting is totally a woo-woo topic, but there is a bit of science behind it. If you make something your focus and you concentrate on achieving it you can change the outcome by changing behaviors that open up new opportunities. Changing your mindset about a topic like money will change your beliefs about what you can make happen. The stories that you tell yourself impact what you do and how you act. Amber was able to help change the way she thinks about money by no longer telling people that she likes to spend money as much as she makes it. Something as small as this can really affect behavior. Whatever you focus your mind on will expand this can be either in a positive or in a negative way. Listen to this episode to learn how to manifest a good money mindset.

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Money is a huge piece of making your entrepreneurial journey more fun

You may be wondering why a show that focuses on business relationships is discussing money. That is because money is such a big piece of your entrepreneurial journey. If you can improve your relationship with money, your entrepreneurial journey will be much more fun. Money has much more to do with emotions than you think, it’s not just numbers. Changing your emotional response to money is a big step toward changing your money mindset. Listen to this important episode about money mindset to help you make your entrepreneurial journey more fun.

Money is a constant growth area

Unfortunately, you can’t simply change your money mindset and then walk away. As you and your business change and grow you must continually reassess your relationship with money. Like every other relationship you have, you’re always working through something when it comes to money. Your money mindset must continue to grow and evolve as you make more money. You also need to be wary of how other people’s money mindset issues can hold you back. Surround yourself with people that have a good relationship with money to help you to improve your money mindset. Listen to this episode to hear tips on how to change your money mindset and continue to grow with your money.

If you constantly compare yourself to others you will never measure up

It is can be easy to stress out when you compare yourself with other people. You need to remember that not everyone is completely honest about how much money they have made. When someone says that they made a million dollars, they may not be disclosing that they actually spent 1.2 million to get there. When you put pressure on yourself you cannot enjoy your successes. Remember that not every business will make millions of dollars. It is important to consider what rich means to you. Listen to this episode and post a picture of yourself listening on your Instagram page. Be sure to tag us @MyBizBestie for a chance to win the book Get Rich Lucky Bitch!

In this episode...

  • [1:12] Maelisa and Amber reminisce on how they met

  • [2:50] Money mindset affects not just your business but your every day life

  • [6:44] Is there a science behind manifesting?

  • [9:38] A huge mindset shift takes place in girls during puberty

  • [12:12] Amber has changed her story when it comes to money

  • [16:16] In a relationship, there can be differing mindsets on money

  • [18:24] If you constantly compare yourself to others you will never measure up

  • [26:22] Not every business is meant to make a million dollars

  • [28:15] Post a picture of you listening to this episode on your Instagram page and tag us @MyBizBestie

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How Can Having an Arch Nemesis Help You Grow Personally? #32

How Can Having an Arch Nemesis Help You Grow Personally? #32

Whether you call them frenemies, haters, or nemesis (nemesi??), it seems like everyone has someone in their lives that is their antithesis. On this episode of My Biz Bestie, Amber and Maelisa flesh out the arch-nemesis relationship. An arch-nemesis can actually be an important relationship that helps you define your life (much like a biz bestie!).

The Four Tendencies Book Review #27

The Four Tendencies Book Review #27

This episode is a review of Gretchen Rubin’s The Four Tendencies. This book explains so much about what motivates people and it can really be a window into why some people do what they do. Listen to this episode of My Biz Bestie to hear about the four tendencies so that you can understand why some people do what they do.

What Does Your Chronotype Say About You? A Book Review of The Power of When #26

What Does Your Chronotype Say About You? A Book Review of The Power of When #26

Do you ever feel that your schedule is a bit off-kilter from the rest of the world? Well, you’re not alone. Maelisa and Amber have found a fantastic book that explains why different people’s optimal schedule may not line up with their spouse’s or seemingly everyone else’s. On this episode of My Biz Bestie Maelisa and Amber review a book that they have often mentioned on the podcast. The book is The Power of When and it was written by sleep psychologist, Michael Breus. If sleep or productivity have ever been a problem for you then you will want to listen to this episode to hear if this book would be a helpful tool for you.