How to Make Changes to Improve Your Leadership Skills with Michael Diettrich Chastain #59

Are you ready to improve your leadership skills and yourself? Michael Diettrich Chastain joins the biz besties to discuss his new book Changes. Michael is a licensed therapist that focuses on leadership development and the psychology of business at Arc Integrated. His years of work in this field have lead him to write Changes for busy professionals and team leaders that want to create change in their own lives. Listen to this episode of My Biz Bestie to hear more about the book and how it can help you improve your leadership skills and yourself.

Why did Michael write this book?

Michael had blogged for his company’s website for several years and after a while, he began to notice a common theme to his blogging. He noticed that the clients that he worked with usually needed more help in certain areas of their lives before they could improve their leadership skills. Most busy professionals that he works with are looking for clear direction translating insight into their behavior. Unfortunately, insight alone doesn’t create sustainable change. To improve your leadership skills, you must take action for lasting change to come about. He knew that he wanted to help more people create change in their lives and so began the lengthy process of writing this book.

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What is the book, Changes, about?

There are 2 parts to the book. Part one focuses on 7 life domains that are important to improving your leadership skills and yourself. These habits are good predictors of success and failure. They make up the acronym Changes.

  • Cognition - how people think

  • Heart - how people feel

  • Action - what people do

  • Nourishment - the physical component of how people sleep, move, and eat

  • Guts - the courage people have to act

  • Environment- people places and things people surround themselves with

  • Spirit - belief systems which include spiritual and nonspiritual

The second part of the book helps the reader understand who to ask for help if they struggle to do the work on their own. It focuses on helping people find the right kind of professional to help them. Michael used his experience with clients as well as plenty of research to write the book.

How can you use the book to improve your leadership skills?

Michael recommends that you choose a few areas from the book to evaluate in your own life and move forward from there. Each section has work that you can do on your own. For instance, consider the stories that you tell yourself. Write out 3 negative stories that you tell yourself and think of ways that you can reframe those stories. What you tell yourself stays with you. What you may consider failures can be reframed into a different narrative. Listen to this interview with Michael Diettrich Chastain to hear how you can improve your leadership skills and your life.

What should people do when they recognize that they need some support?

As people dive into the book they may recognize that there is a theme with the work that they are doing to improve themselves. They may find that they need a bit more help than the exercises in the book can offer. Think about your communication style and personality then think about the problem you are having. Is the problem stemming from a trauma or is it a lack of skill set or lack of motivation? There is a big difference between having a mentor, a coach, and a therapist. The book outlines the different disciplines so that people understand what they’re getting into. It also recommends ways to choose the right kind of professional to help you improve your leadership skills and your life.

In this episode...

  • [5:42] A bit about Michael’s book

  • [11:46] What are the different pillars of his book?

  • [16:58] Where to begin the process of diving into the work?

  • [22:35] What do people do when they recognize that they need some support?

  • [31:02] Are there any common patterns among leaders?

Resources & People Mentioned

  • BOOK - Changes by Michael Diettrich Chastain

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How to Tell if That Business Coaching Course is Worth It #58

Before you invest in another business coaching course stop and listen to this episode of My Biz Bestie. If you are anything like Maelisa and Amber you have invested a ton of money in masterminds, courses, programs, and anything else you can think of to help your business grow. But how can you tell if you’re getting a good ROI? On this episode the biz besties help you analyze whether or not you should buy that next business course (or join that mastermind, etc) or whether the one you are currently in is actually doing you any good.

Do you have space in your life to dedicate to this investment?

Before you invest any money in a business coaching course or a program you need to analyze your life. Do you have time for it and do you need it? Oftentimes there is value in what you are looking to purchase but if you don’t have the free time or free mind space to invest in it then it won’t be of any value to you. So, do you have space in your life to dedicate to this thing? If you don’t try looking for a middle ground. If you know that you aren’t ready to put yourself all in then there might be a shorter program that you can handle right now. Get clear with yourself on what you can handle. If it's not a hell yes then its a no.

What is the need you are trying to fill?

When you are considering signing up for a business coaching course or a program then think about your needs. How will this investment help you learn what you need right now? If the thing you are looking at fills a need then go for it. Something you may not have considered is whether you really need to learn the new thing or if you should just hire it out instead. Sometimes you don’t need to learn the skill you just need to hire it out. Check in with yourself. Do a time study and identify what you are actually spending your time on. Everyone has time blindness and grossly overestimates or underestimates what they spend time on. Once you look at the data then you are in a better place to make decisions.

What is the ROI that you are looking for?

Before you invest in another business coaching course think about the outcome. How should things look different for you after you complete the course? Don’t be afraid to contact the seller. Ask them specific questions about how you will achieve your goals. Don’t be shy! They are trying to sell you something so they should be happy to answer the questions. This also helps manage your expectations. Understand how to measure your ROI if you are doing your work and the coach is doing their work. Ask the coach what their expectation is, can you complete it?

How do you know if the business coaching course is worth it?

You should already have an idea of the results that you want to see. Make sure to have a way of tracking those results whether it’s weekly, monthly or whatever. Have a specific way to look for your progress. When a goal is ambiguous it can be hard to see the progress even if you aren’t feeling it at the moment. You take a program, not because you are unable to learn without it, but because something is holding you back from doing it on your own. So give credit where credit is due when you do achieve your goals. So, are you achieving the goals you set out to achieve?

In this episode...

  • [3:12] Do you have space in your life to dedicate to this investment?

  • [7:04] What is the need you are trying to fill?

  • [13:55] What is the ROI that you are looking for?

  • [21:51] How do you know if the program is worth it?

  • [24:06] What should you do if the program doesn’t live up to your expectations?

Resources & People Mentioned

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How Inner Growth Can Lead to Prosperity Inside and Out with Natalie MacNeil #57

Maelisa and Amber welcome self-care guru, Natalie MacNeil to discuss personal reflection, imbalance, and inner growth. Natalie has written 3 best selling books and is the visionary behind one of Forbes Top 100 websites for women. She has a new book called The Rituals coming out in the fall of 2019. You will want to download this one so that you can pause and reflect and then go back and listen again. Watch out because Natalie throws the inspirational knowledge bombs in every direction on this episode of My Biz Bestie.

Personal reflection brings both inner growth and outer growth

Natalie’s business decisions come after a lot of personal reflection. She is always seeking personal improvement on every level. Her deep work has caused her to break through years of conditioning. She insists that business owners do the deep inner work so that they can grow inside and out. Think about what is triggering you right now. What causes you to feel a lack in your life? What causes you to compare yourself to others? Once you resolve these things, doors begin to open and your business can prosper. Doing the inner work allows you to focus more on the outer work in your life.

Strategic imbalance can bring you more joy

Balance means something different for everyone. Marcus Buckingham created the concept of strategic imbalance which allows people to imbalance their lives to bring them more joy. Whatever brings you joy matters. What is the one essential thing you need to focus on in your life right now? Many people get distracted by all the shiny objects. But if you spread yourself too thin no one thing will reach its fullest potential. Think about how you can focus your attention and resources before expanding to other projects and businesses. What should you focus on temporarily? Think about the next 12 weeks. Maintain your focus on one thing that will lead to your next goal. Let Maelisa and Amber know how you will strategically imbalance your life.

Give yourself permission to step away and take a break

When you are experiencing suffering step away for a moment. You can’t do your best work and bring your highest service if you are in a place of suffering. If you keep on barreling through then you will continue to feel stuck. Remember that this feeling is just passing through so let it pass through you and then come back to the present moment. Allow yourself to get back into the creative flow by changing your state. One way to step away is to move your body. When you move your body more your creativity and answers will flow through you. How do you take a break when you are feeling stuck?

What you are seeing is what you are being

It is important to take care of yourself first in the here and now. Find ways to enjoy the process and your journey because there will always be something else ahead. Since everyone is in a constant state of evolution you never know what the future may bring. Find a way to appreciate the uncertainty that is life and that's how you will learn to experience the joy. We need the contrast of the ups and downs to truly appreciate life. The bad enhances the good. What you see outside is a reflection of what is going on inside. What you are seeing is what you are being. How do you see the world right now?

In this episode…

  • [3:12] Her business decisions come after lots of personal reflection

  • [8:13] Strategic imbalance can bring you more joy

  • [18:35] How will do you think your goal will make you feel?

  • [27:56] If you are suffering step away

  • [42:44] Take an inventory of your life right now

Resources & People Mentioned

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How to Set Networking Goals with Nikki Rausch #56

Nikki Rausch is ready to teach you how to set networking goals by using her Stride 5 list on this episode of My Biz Bestie. Nikki is Your Sales Maven, a sales coach, author, and speaker. She teaches entrepreneurs and business owners how to sell without being salesy. Nikki prefers to build strong relationships in an authentic way before ever engaging in a sale. Learn how to build authentic relationships first by setting networking goals on this episode of My Biz Bestie.

Why is it important to build relationships first?

You may be thinking that building relationships prior to a sale is a waste of time, but it's not. Making sales starts with relationships, so understanding how to build authentic relationships is important to the sales process. Consumers are constantly bombarded by advertising these days. They are much more savvy and skeptical and don’t want to buy from every person trying to sell them something. The selling process gets easier when you build a relationship first. Most entrepreneurs are not just selling a product they create a story behind it. When you can tell your story well it engages with your audience. And once your audience connects with you they are more likely to buy from you.

What is the Stride 5 method?

The Strive 5 is method is a way to set an intention around the people you want to connect with. The next time you attend a live event make a list of 5 people who you really want to connect with and have an interaction with. The whole idea behind the Strive 5 is to dream big, In your wildest dreams who would you like to meet? Even the smallest interaction can lead to something bigger down the road. Nikki’s Strive 5 doesn’t always include people she wants to sell to. Often it includes people she simply wants to be around and learn from.

How to use the Stride 5 list to set networking goals

Networking at live events can be tricky. You only have so much time at a conference so creating a Stride 5 list and setting networking goals can help you from feeling overwhelmed. There are a million ways to get sidetracked from your true intentions if you don’t have concrete networking goals. The Stride 5 list is a way to focus your intentions on those you really want to meet. You’ll meet plenty of other people as well. But you can put yourself in situations or take opportunities to connect with the people on your Stride 5 list. Listen to this episode to hear Nikki Rausch explain how she uses her Stride 5 list to set networking goals.

What should people who are just starting out focus on?

When you are just starting out you may have different intentions than someone who has been doing this awhile. It is important to update your list frequently. You can even have multiple lists. When thinking about creating your list focus on the connections you intend to make. Why do you want to meet that person? What can you learn from them? What can you offer them? Remember that building a community is an important way to build your business. The stride 5 list is a great way to help you up your networking goals and build your community.

In this episode...

  • [6:12] What is her Strive 5 method?

  • [10:22] Having a premade list helps you push past your comfort zone

  • [16:44] Does she share her Strive 5 list with others?

  • [19:34] Even a small connection can lead to a bigger one later

  • [21:51] What should people who are just starting out focus on?

  • [25:22] What has come from her Stride 5 list?

Resources & People Mentioned

Connect with Nikki Rausch

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